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Change - Here's How!
Nobody said change was easy. That's why most people don't do it.
But there is a deeper reason behind why it is hard that if understood,
will lead you to take action that will bring you new habits and
sustainable results.
When you evolve and grow as a person you start with: 1) VALUES
which create 2) ATTITUDES which create 3) BEHAVIORS. For example,
when you were a young child you valued having friends, trusted all
people and behaved openly. Then through some unpleasant
experiences on the playground you learned that not everyone is
trustworthy on the same level so you behaved by choosing friends that
were consistently nice to you.
Here is a career example: You value your job so your attitude is that you
want your boss to notice you in order to advance so you behave by
working long hours to be noticed.
When you want to change your internal culture the process must move
in reverse, which is unnatural, making it much more difficult. You must
start with: 1) NEW BEHAVIORS which will create 2) NEW ATTITUDES
which will create 3) NEW VALUES.
Career example: You don’t want to work long hours anymore because
it has taken a toll on your family so you want to change your internal
culture by starting with a behavior. You will stop working longer and
begin working SMARTer. You will change your behavior by setting
SMART weekly goals that
are broken down into SMART daily goals. Remember SMART Goals
are Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Results Oriented and Time
Framed. Don’t worry about changing your attitude and values – that will
happen on its own. You will find that your attitude will change when
your boss notices how your own self discipline has made you more
productive – a smart adjustment on your part without any coaching.
You start to help colleagues with goal setting and you begin to value
how goal setting is not only a precursor to achievement but also to
leadership and a better quality of life.
If you want to change - just act. Do something differently. Don't worry
about the feelings behind it. They will follow.
In the words of Henry Ford…
“If you think you can do a thing or think you can't do a thing, you're
right.”
“Business is never so healthy as when, like a chicken, it must do a
certain amount of scratching around for what it gets.”
“I am looking for a lot of men who have an infinite capacity to not know
what can't be done.”
“If money is your hope for independence you will never have it. The
only real security that a man will have in this world is a reserve of
knowledge, experience, and ability.”
There are a couple of key factors that get in the way of change. Watch
out for them because they will become excuses that will lead to self-
paralysis. These key Leadership Obstructers are:
1) Guilt and Worry We guilt about the past and worry about the future.
Both are useless emotions because we can’t change the past and
worrying never changed the future for anybody. Action and goal setting
change the future.
2) Blame and Complain We blame and complain about whatever we
can so as not to take responsibility for changing behaviors. It’s easier
being a victim.
Did any of the above Leadership Obstructers ever make you happier or
did they simply take you farther away from a healthy life balance? What
behaviors will you change to move your life forward? Act! Start now!
Email this to a friend who may appreciate the advice.
Follow Mary Lee’s career tips on Twitter.com at StartingOverNow.
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For the FREE Worksheets: "SMART Goals," “It’s Not Who You Know It’s
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Mary Lee Gannon is an executive coach and turnaround expert who
went from being a stay-at-home mother with four children to divorce,
poverty and then on to become a newspaper reporter, trade
association executive director, public relations consultant, and
foundation president and CEO. View Mary Lee’s free career tips,
worksheets and Blog on her website at www.startingovernow.com.
Contact Mary Lee or sign up for her free e-newsletter at
info@startingovernow.com.
Nobody said change was easy. That's why most people don't do it.
But there is a deeper reason behind why it is hard that if understood,
will lead you to take action that will bring you new habits and
sustainable results.
When you evolve and grow as a person you start with: 1) VALUES
which create 2) ATTITUDES which create 3) BEHAVIORS. For example,
when you were a young child you valued having friends, trusted all
people and behaved openly. Then through some unpleasant
experiences on the playground you learned that not everyone is
trustworthy on the same level so you behaved by choosing friends that
were consistently nice to you.
Here is a career example: You value your job so your attitude is that you
want your boss to notice you in order to advance so you behave by
working long hours to be noticed.
When you want to change your internal culture the process must move
in reverse, which is unnatural, making it much more difficult. You must
start with: 1) NEW BEHAVIORS which will create 2) NEW ATTITUDES
which will create 3) NEW VALUES.
Career example: You don’t want to work long hours anymore because
it has taken a toll on your family so you want to change your internal
culture by starting with a behavior. You will stop working longer and
begin working SMARTer. You will change your behavior by setting
SMART weekly goals that
are broken down into SMART daily goals. Remember SMART Goals
are Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Results Oriented and Time
Framed. Don’t worry about changing your attitude and values – that will
happen on its own. You will find that your attitude will change when
your boss notices how your own self discipline has made you more
productive – a smart adjustment on your part without any coaching.
You start to help colleagues with goal setting and you begin to value
how goal setting is not only a precursor to achievement but also to
leadership and a better quality of life.
If you want to change - just act. Do something differently. Don't worry
about the feelings behind it. They will follow.
In the words of Henry Ford…
“If you think you can do a thing or think you can't do a thing, you're
right.”
“Business is never so healthy as when, like a chicken, it must do a
certain amount of scratching around for what it gets.”
“I am looking for a lot of men who have an infinite capacity to not know
what can't be done.”
“If money is your hope for independence you will never have it. The
only real security that a man will have in this world is a reserve of
knowledge, experience, and ability.”
There are a couple of key factors that get in the way of change. Watch
out for them because they will become excuses that will lead to self-
paralysis. These key Leadership Obstructers are:
1) Guilt and Worry We guilt about the past and worry about the future.
Both are useless emotions because we can’t change the past and
worrying never changed the future for anybody. Action and goal setting
change the future.
2) Blame and Complain We blame and complain about whatever we
can so as not to take responsibility for changing behaviors. It’s easier
being a victim.
Did any of the above Leadership Obstructers ever make you happier or
did they simply take you farther away from a healthy life balance? What
behaviors will you change to move your life forward? Act! Start now!
Email this to a friend who may appreciate the advice.
Follow Mary Lee’s career tips on Twitter.com at StartingOverNow.
Sign up for Mary Lee’s FREE e-newsletter of free career and
productivity advice by emailing info@startingovernow.com.
For the FREE Worksheets: "SMART Goals," “It’s Not Who You Know It’s
Who knows You” and “Goals - What They Did for Me” go to: www.
startingovernow.com/Articles-andTip-Sheets.html
Mary Lee Gannon is an executive coach and turnaround expert who
went from being a stay-at-home mother with four children to divorce,
poverty and then on to become a newspaper reporter, trade
association executive director, public relations consultant, and
foundation president and CEO. View Mary Lee’s free career tips,
worksheets and Blog on her website at www.startingovernow.com.
Contact Mary Lee or sign up for her free e-newsletter at
info@startingovernow.com.
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Change -
Here's How!
Nobody said
change was easy.
That's why most
people don't do it.
Understand the
steps to sustain
change and watch
what happens.
Here's How!
Nobody said
change was easy.
That's why most
people don't do it.
Understand the
steps to sustain
change and watch
what happens.
Turnaround Solutions for People & Organizations
Whether you are an executive who is "stuck," your company needs
better productivity, or you are in a life transition you represent the
people and organizations Executive Leadership Coach Mary Lee has
helped. Learn how to clarify direction, create strategy, upgrade skills,
optimize your environment and wipe out fear and doubt. Make it fun =
get more done!
Mary Lee’s strategies from her book “Starting Over” helped her in her
own transformation from stay-at-home mother with four children living
a country club life to the reality of a difficult marriage, divorce, poverty,
welfare and then on to president and CEO. Eliminate self doubt, under-
performance, money fears, relationships woes, and negative influence
so that you may soar. Then lead others to improve their lives and your
business. Start now! For a FREE introductory coaching session via
phone contact info@startingovernow.com.
Whether you are an executive who is "stuck," your company needs
better productivity, or you are in a life transition you represent the
people and organizations Executive Leadership Coach Mary Lee has
helped. Learn how to clarify direction, create strategy, upgrade skills,
optimize your environment and wipe out fear and doubt. Make it fun =
get more done!
Mary Lee’s strategies from her book “Starting Over” helped her in her
own transformation from stay-at-home mother with four children living
a country club life to the reality of a difficult marriage, divorce, poverty,
welfare and then on to president and CEO. Eliminate self doubt, under-
performance, money fears, relationships woes, and negative influence
so that you may soar. Then lead others to improve their lives and your
business. Start now! For a FREE introductory coaching session via
phone contact info@startingovernow.com.
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to help you:
1. United States of America's
primary source on career
information:
www.onetcenter.org
2. Wage Estimates
www.salary.com and Bureau of
Labor and Statistics
3. Organize Your Job Search -
Post a Question etc.:
www.cvtips.com
4. Starting Over After Divorce:
www.womansdivorce.com
5. Starting Over for Women:
www.makingbreadmagazine.co
m
6. Self Improvement:
www.selfgrowth.com.
7. Job Postings, Resume
Advice and Resources:
www.careerbuiler.com
8. Templates for: business
plans, competitive analysis,
start up costs and more:
www.score.org/business_toolbox
.html
9. Federal/Sate/Local
Government jobs:
www.USAJOBS.com
10. U.S. Government's Free
online courses, webinars and
podcasts for workforce
development:
www.onetacademy.com.
11. Occupational Outlook
Handbok 2008-09 by Bureau of
Labor and Statistics:
http://www.bls.gov/oco/home.ht
m
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