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Feel the Fear - How to Build Self-Confidence
“Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If
you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get
busy.” ~ Dale Carnegie
Self-confidence is a mindset whereby you are certain that you can tackle any
challenge for a better outcome because you know how to go about it
strategically. Notice this does not suggest that you will always get it right –
nor that you will get their without consequence. But you know that you can
handle the situation because you have the tools.
So what are the tools? Simple. Think back to everything you feared as a
child – first day of school, fitting in with new friends, not making the team,
disappointing your parents. Did any of these things kill you? Of course not.
Emotionally hurt you? Probably. But did the outcome of any of these
permanently stop you from tackling the challenge again – starting a first day
at work, fitting in with new friends, trying out for another team or competing in
an activity, or striving for the approval of your parents. I suspect not.
Top 2 Tools for Building Self Confidence
1.) Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway
It may be safe to say that the first tool to building self-confidence is to know
that in your past you have already “felt the fear and did it anyway.” Don’t fear
the fear. Fear is only a paralyzing emotion when it becomes the ONLY
emotion or in the very least the overriding emotion. So the tool to use when
you feel fear or doubt yourself is to accept that fear is an emotion that you
feel today just as you feel love for those you care about, joy in the good work
of yourself and others and sadness for those who suffer. But if fear rises to
the top of these emotions it is time to take the energy that fear riles in you
and use that energy to get excited about your ultimate goal – feeling good
about what you are about to do. You have tackled fears before and survived.
Concentrate on what you will feel like when you have accomplished your
goal. Feel it in your body. Listen to what your voice will sound like. It’s grand!
2.) Stay in Your Own Head
Don’t take on the perception of others. You can only deliver information,
presentations, outcomes etc. from your own perspective – from what you are
thinking – not from what others are thinking. If your fear is public speaking,
build your confidence by erasing the head trash vision of a poor performance
and replace it with the feeling of having performed well. Fear is felt because
you saw yourself from another person’s eyes underperforming. Get outside
of their head and back into your own head. Concentrate on being behind
your own eyes and feeling the adrenaline rush from having done well.
Envision yourself at the end of the journey having succeeded. Sketch that
vision on paper and hang it where you will see it everyday to remind yourself
of the positive vision and feeling. Make a list of the advantages of taking the
productive risk that you’ve been avoiding. Focus on the positive outcome
and feeling that success will bring you.
Daily Activities that Build Confidence
(Remember a habit takes 21 days to form.)
1.) Dress Sharp. You ARE sharp. Confident people take care of
themselves.
2.) Look Only Straight Ahead When You Walk. You will never be able to
smile at people when you are looking at your shoes.
3.) Walk at a Brisk Pace. After all, you have a lot to do and your time is
valuable.
4.) Keep a Journal. In this journal concentrate on what limitations you may
be placing on yourself that keep you from your ultimate goal. List your
strengths. Evaluate why others may not have identified all of your strengths.
5.) Stand Up and Sit Up Straight Like You’ve Swallowed a Poker. What you
think about people who are slouched over? How did John F. Kennedy
stand? What did you think of his confidence?
6.) Be Grateful. Make a list of your family, friends, neighbors, co-workers,
colleagues, interests, talents, pets etc. Then list next to each one why you
are grateful that they are in your life. This makes a great journal entry.
7.) Volunteer. Volunteering is a great way to learn a new skill and meet new
people while making a meaningful difference.
8.) Read Something New. Learn about something that interests you for
which you never thought you had the time.
9.) Speak Slowly. I have seen people who truly do not have a lot to say gain
attention at a table full of people just by speaking slowly. Don’t forget the
power of the pause.
10.) Know Your Elevator Speech. Be able to describe in 30 seconds what
you do and why it is needed.
11.) Sit in the Front Row and Speak Up. People who do not want to be
noticed sit in the back.
12.) Exercise and Eat Healthy. You know to do this anyway, right? Why
does this suggestion appear in all programs for improvement? Because it
is essential.
The most important thing you can do to build your confidence is to take
action. Write down your fears. Acknowledge them and ask yourself why they
are so prevalent. Write down what you can do to tackle them. Start now!
“Never bend your head. Always hold it high. Look the world straight in the
face.” ~ Helen Keller
Email this to a friend who may appreciate the advice. Follow Mary Lee’s tips
on Twitter at StartingOverNow.
For the FREE Worksheets: “Begin With the End in Mind and Sketch that
Vision on Paper” and “SMART Goals” go to Mary Lee's Articles and Tips
Sheets page.
Mary Lee Gannon is a personal turnaround, leadership and productivity
expert who went from being a stay-at-home mother with four children living a
country club life to the reality of a difficult marriage, divorce, homelessness,
and welfare. As a guest speaker, she demonstrates how she went from an
earning capacity of $27,000 to president and CEO. Her book "Starting Over -
25 Rules for When You've Bottomed Out" is available in bookstores. Email
Mary Lee at info@StartingOverNow.com.
“Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If
you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get
busy.” ~ Dale Carnegie
Self-confidence is a mindset whereby you are certain that you can tackle any
challenge for a better outcome because you know how to go about it
strategically. Notice this does not suggest that you will always get it right –
nor that you will get their without consequence. But you know that you can
handle the situation because you have the tools.
So what are the tools? Simple. Think back to everything you feared as a
child – first day of school, fitting in with new friends, not making the team,
disappointing your parents. Did any of these things kill you? Of course not.
Emotionally hurt you? Probably. But did the outcome of any of these
permanently stop you from tackling the challenge again – starting a first day
at work, fitting in with new friends, trying out for another team or competing in
an activity, or striving for the approval of your parents. I suspect not.
Top 2 Tools for Building Self Confidence
1.) Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway
It may be safe to say that the first tool to building self-confidence is to know
that in your past you have already “felt the fear and did it anyway.” Don’t fear
the fear. Fear is only a paralyzing emotion when it becomes the ONLY
emotion or in the very least the overriding emotion. So the tool to use when
you feel fear or doubt yourself is to accept that fear is an emotion that you
feel today just as you feel love for those you care about, joy in the good work
of yourself and others and sadness for those who suffer. But if fear rises to
the top of these emotions it is time to take the energy that fear riles in you
and use that energy to get excited about your ultimate goal – feeling good
about what you are about to do. You have tackled fears before and survived.
Concentrate on what you will feel like when you have accomplished your
goal. Feel it in your body. Listen to what your voice will sound like. It’s grand!
2.) Stay in Your Own Head
Don’t take on the perception of others. You can only deliver information,
presentations, outcomes etc. from your own perspective – from what you are
thinking – not from what others are thinking. If your fear is public speaking,
build your confidence by erasing the head trash vision of a poor performance
and replace it with the feeling of having performed well. Fear is felt because
you saw yourself from another person’s eyes underperforming. Get outside
of their head and back into your own head. Concentrate on being behind
your own eyes and feeling the adrenaline rush from having done well.
Envision yourself at the end of the journey having succeeded. Sketch that
vision on paper and hang it where you will see it everyday to remind yourself
of the positive vision and feeling. Make a list of the advantages of taking the
productive risk that you’ve been avoiding. Focus on the positive outcome
and feeling that success will bring you.
Daily Activities that Build Confidence
(Remember a habit takes 21 days to form.)
1.) Dress Sharp. You ARE sharp. Confident people take care of
themselves.
2.) Look Only Straight Ahead When You Walk. You will never be able to
smile at people when you are looking at your shoes.
3.) Walk at a Brisk Pace. After all, you have a lot to do and your time is
valuable.
4.) Keep a Journal. In this journal concentrate on what limitations you may
be placing on yourself that keep you from your ultimate goal. List your
strengths. Evaluate why others may not have identified all of your strengths.
5.) Stand Up and Sit Up Straight Like You’ve Swallowed a Poker. What you
think about people who are slouched over? How did John F. Kennedy
stand? What did you think of his confidence?
6.) Be Grateful. Make a list of your family, friends, neighbors, co-workers,
colleagues, interests, talents, pets etc. Then list next to each one why you
are grateful that they are in your life. This makes a great journal entry.
7.) Volunteer. Volunteering is a great way to learn a new skill and meet new
people while making a meaningful difference.
8.) Read Something New. Learn about something that interests you for
which you never thought you had the time.
9.) Speak Slowly. I have seen people who truly do not have a lot to say gain
attention at a table full of people just by speaking slowly. Don’t forget the
power of the pause.
10.) Know Your Elevator Speech. Be able to describe in 30 seconds what
you do and why it is needed.
11.) Sit in the Front Row and Speak Up. People who do not want to be
noticed sit in the back.
12.) Exercise and Eat Healthy. You know to do this anyway, right? Why
does this suggestion appear in all programs for improvement? Because it
is essential.
The most important thing you can do to build your confidence is to take
action. Write down your fears. Acknowledge them and ask yourself why they
are so prevalent. Write down what you can do to tackle them. Start now!
“Never bend your head. Always hold it high. Look the world straight in the
face.” ~ Helen Keller
Email this to a friend who may appreciate the advice. Follow Mary Lee’s tips
on Twitter at StartingOverNow.
For the FREE Worksheets: “Begin With the End in Mind and Sketch that
Vision on Paper” and “SMART Goals” go to Mary Lee's Articles and Tips
Sheets page.
Mary Lee Gannon is a personal turnaround, leadership and productivity
expert who went from being a stay-at-home mother with four children living a
country club life to the reality of a difficult marriage, divorce, homelessness,
and welfare. As a guest speaker, she demonstrates how she went from an
earning capacity of $27,000 to president and CEO. Her book "Starting Over -
25 Rules for When You've Bottomed Out" is available in bookstores. Email
Mary Lee at info@StartingOverNow.com.
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Gannon's work as a
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trade association
executive director,
public relations
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entrepreneur, and
hospital foundation
president and CEO are
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e-newsletter with tips on
"Starting Over."
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* Starting over in
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* Empty nesters
* Entrepreneurs
* Networking
* Job Seekers
* Starting all over
again
* Going through a
divorce
* Looking for career
opportunities
* Seeking FREE
career advice and
education
* Finding mentors
* Setting new life
goals
To chart your road
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Book "Starting Over"
will be released in
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Look for it in stores or
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For the FREE StartingOverNow E-newsletter, or to contact Mary Lee simply send
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Make It Fun = Get More Done!
Whether your company is in need of better productivity from your workforce, or
you want to build a better network, are starting over, are an empty nester
re-entering the workforce, have been laid-off, or are going through a divorce
there is information here to help you! Learn to take your interests and channel
them into productive goals on a fast track. Reach out of your comfort zone to
achieve proven and practical strategies for success. We invite you to share your
insight, take advantage of the resources here, challenge yourself, and continue
to develop and grow.
For the FREE StartingOverNow E-newsletter, or to contact Mary Lee simply send
an email to: info@startingovernow.com. Share your story.