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How to Help Yourself and the People Around You
Exceed Goals - Grow Productivity
We wonder why the employees we manage or the children we parent or
the people we love do not seem to listen or care about what we have to
say. The reason is actually very easy to understand. The reason is
actually very easy to understand and once understood - to remedy.
The Delusion
Often we operate in a delusion. We do not prioritize caring about people
as much as we care about getting what we want. Then we justify our own
negative behavior toward them by viewing them almost as inanimate
objects – as if we HAVE to treat them impersonally because they deserve
it. Does this make them want to perform better for us the way inspired
and engaged people do? No.
The Delusion and Your Children
Think about it – You want your teenage child, whose grades are less than
adequate, to do his homework so you tell him he better do it or he is going
to get bad grades, not get into a good college and will not be a success.
Makes sense, right? Makes sense to you but not to him. He hears you
say, “You get bad grades, will never go to a good college and will end up a
loser.” Ugh! Do you think he cares what you think when you think he is a
loser? Of course not. So he tunes you out for being overbearing,
negative, and critical. He then under-performs to control the situation and
get back at you. And subsequently do you end up feeling overbearing,
negative, critical not to mention ineffective? Yep. So consequentially he is
justified in his feelings about you and you are justified in your feelings
about where he is going to end up. Everyone is living a delusion because
of course he could do his homework and go to a good school and be a
success. And of course your leading qualities are not to be overbearing,
negative and critical. You can only control your role in any delusion.
Could it be that as parents sometimes we want our children to perform
well so that we can feel good about it? As a manager do we sometimes
want our employees to perform well so that we will look good? In
relationships do we sometimes want or loved ones to make us feel loved
and appreciated so that we are happy? Yes. That is human nature. So
how do we get there? By caring about them as people first and ourselves
second. That is what makes us truly human – to care about others in a
way we would never care about an object – to care about them before
ourselves. So when we do not see people as people but mere objects for
our own good, we have betrayed ourselves.
You might say to your son, “I love you and want to help you feel good about
doing your homework. Can I help you organize your homework or get
some special tools to help you?” He’ll of course look at you as if you have
three heads. You’ll continue, “You said that you like business. I’d like for
us to visit a friend of mine who is an investment advisor together so that
you can ask him questions about what he does. I think it might be really
interesting for both of us.” At this point he’ll be waiting for the catch. “How
about next Monday after school? I’ll leave work early.”
The Delusion and Your Employees
Think about how this plays out in work. You think you care about your
employees or your colleagues. You don’t micro-manage them nor are you
demanding. You give them little gifts at holidays. You occasionally ask
them about their children. Yet they don’t seem to care about the company
or worse yet helping you to look good. They don’t really have your back.
Your Delusion - So therefore they are lazy and ungrateful and don’t
deserve for you to provide opportunities for them to learn and grow.
Your colleagues notice that all you seem to focus on is your work. You
don’t even know the names of some of their spouses and you never talk
about helping them learn anything new. And you don’t keep them
informed on what the vision is for their area. Their Delusion – Therefore
you are a work-a-holic with no life who doesn’t care about them or whether
or not they move up in the company so why should they work hard for you?
What the Delusion Costs You
End Result – As a manager, your area is not as productive as it needs to
be. As employees, their work is unfulfilling. This leads to high attrition,
employee disengagement and low productivity. All of these boil down to
lost money and purpose for all involved – the business looses money and
the manager and the employees don’t advance.
The Solution to Delusion
Stop betraying yourself by seeing those around you as a means to your
own fulfillment. I am a fan of visualization techniques. Look hard at the
faces of the people close to you in your office, your close relationships and
your life and ask yourself if you value them as a person or as an inanimate
object. Are you living a delusion of self-betrayal by detaching from then
because you perceive they don’t deserve better? And has the repetitive
nature of your choices brought any better engagement from your staff,
colleagues and loved ones? Try seeing the people you lead and care
about as small children who need guidance. Envision what they would
look like as a seven-year-old. Every time you interact with the people
close to you, envision them as children who need a helping hand, who
need guidance, who need love. Then watch them change their behavior.
Start now!
Follow Mary Lee's career tips on Twitter.com at StartingOverNow.
For the FREE Articles: “It’s Not Who You Know It’s Who knows You” and
“Goals - What They Did for Me” go to: http://www.startingovernow.
com/Articles-and-Tip-Sheets.html
Mary Lee Gannon is a coach, cultural turnaround and leadership expert
who went from being a stay-at-home mother with four children to a difficult
marriage, divorce, homelessness, and welfare to CEO. Her book "Starting
Over - 25 Rules When You've Bottomed Out" is available on Amazon.com
and shows how she went from an earning capacity of $27,000 annually to
president and CEO within just a few years. Sign up for her free e-
Newsletter.
Exceed Goals - Grow Productivity
We wonder why the employees we manage or the children we parent or
the people we love do not seem to listen or care about what we have to
say. The reason is actually very easy to understand. The reason is
actually very easy to understand and once understood - to remedy.
The Delusion
Often we operate in a delusion. We do not prioritize caring about people
as much as we care about getting what we want. Then we justify our own
negative behavior toward them by viewing them almost as inanimate
objects – as if we HAVE to treat them impersonally because they deserve
it. Does this make them want to perform better for us the way inspired
and engaged people do? No.
The Delusion and Your Children
Think about it – You want your teenage child, whose grades are less than
adequate, to do his homework so you tell him he better do it or he is going
to get bad grades, not get into a good college and will not be a success.
Makes sense, right? Makes sense to you but not to him. He hears you
say, “You get bad grades, will never go to a good college and will end up a
loser.” Ugh! Do you think he cares what you think when you think he is a
loser? Of course not. So he tunes you out for being overbearing,
negative, and critical. He then under-performs to control the situation and
get back at you. And subsequently do you end up feeling overbearing,
negative, critical not to mention ineffective? Yep. So consequentially he is
justified in his feelings about you and you are justified in your feelings
about where he is going to end up. Everyone is living a delusion because
of course he could do his homework and go to a good school and be a
success. And of course your leading qualities are not to be overbearing,
negative and critical. You can only control your role in any delusion.
Could it be that as parents sometimes we want our children to perform
well so that we can feel good about it? As a manager do we sometimes
want our employees to perform well so that we will look good? In
relationships do we sometimes want or loved ones to make us feel loved
and appreciated so that we are happy? Yes. That is human nature. So
how do we get there? By caring about them as people first and ourselves
second. That is what makes us truly human – to care about others in a
way we would never care about an object – to care about them before
ourselves. So when we do not see people as people but mere objects for
our own good, we have betrayed ourselves.
You might say to your son, “I love you and want to help you feel good about
doing your homework. Can I help you organize your homework or get
some special tools to help you?” He’ll of course look at you as if you have
three heads. You’ll continue, “You said that you like business. I’d like for
us to visit a friend of mine who is an investment advisor together so that
you can ask him questions about what he does. I think it might be really
interesting for both of us.” At this point he’ll be waiting for the catch. “How
about next Monday after school? I’ll leave work early.”
The Delusion and Your Employees
Think about how this plays out in work. You think you care about your
employees or your colleagues. You don’t micro-manage them nor are you
demanding. You give them little gifts at holidays. You occasionally ask
them about their children. Yet they don’t seem to care about the company
or worse yet helping you to look good. They don’t really have your back.
Your Delusion - So therefore they are lazy and ungrateful and don’t
deserve for you to provide opportunities for them to learn and grow.
Your colleagues notice that all you seem to focus on is your work. You
don’t even know the names of some of their spouses and you never talk
about helping them learn anything new. And you don’t keep them
informed on what the vision is for their area. Their Delusion – Therefore
you are a work-a-holic with no life who doesn’t care about them or whether
or not they move up in the company so why should they work hard for you?
What the Delusion Costs You
End Result – As a manager, your area is not as productive as it needs to
be. As employees, their work is unfulfilling. This leads to high attrition,
employee disengagement and low productivity. All of these boil down to
lost money and purpose for all involved – the business looses money and
the manager and the employees don’t advance.
The Solution to Delusion
Stop betraying yourself by seeing those around you as a means to your
own fulfillment. I am a fan of visualization techniques. Look hard at the
faces of the people close to you in your office, your close relationships and
your life and ask yourself if you value them as a person or as an inanimate
object. Are you living a delusion of self-betrayal by detaching from then
because you perceive they don’t deserve better? And has the repetitive
nature of your choices brought any better engagement from your staff,
colleagues and loved ones? Try seeing the people you lead and care
about as small children who need guidance. Envision what they would
look like as a seven-year-old. Every time you interact with the people
close to you, envision them as children who need a helping hand, who
need guidance, who need love. Then watch them change their behavior.
Start now!
Follow Mary Lee's career tips on Twitter.com at StartingOverNow.
For the FREE Articles: “It’s Not Who You Know It’s Who knows You” and
“Goals - What They Did for Me” go to: http://www.startingovernow.
com/Articles-and-Tip-Sheets.html
Mary Lee Gannon is a coach, cultural turnaround and leadership expert
who went from being a stay-at-home mother with four children to a difficult
marriage, divorce, homelessness, and welfare to CEO. Her book "Starting
Over - 25 Rules When You've Bottomed Out" is available on Amazon.com
and shows how she went from an earning capacity of $27,000 annually to
president and CEO within just a few years. Sign up for her free e-
Newsletter.
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seeing people as a
vehicle of your own
fulfillment and inspire
them by caring about
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Yourself and
the People
Around You
Exceed Goals
Mary Lee shares tips
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seeing people as a
vehicle of your own
fulfillment and inspire
them by caring about
them as people.
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Productivity and Leadership with a Healthy Life Balance
Make It Fun = Get More Done!
Whether your company is in need of better productivity from your workforce, or
you want to build a better network, are starting over, are an empty nester
re-entering the workforce, have been laid-off, or are going through a divorce
there is information here to help you! Learn to take your interests and channel
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to develop and grow.
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Make It Fun = Get More Done!
Whether your company is in need of better productivity from your workforce, or
you want to build a better network, are starting over, are an empty nester
re-entering the workforce, have been laid-off, or are going through a divorce
there is information here to help you! Learn to take your interests and channel
them into productive goals on a fast track. Reach out of your comfort zone to
achieve proven and practical strategies for success. We invite you to share your
insight, take advantage of the resources here, challenge yourself, and continue
to develop and grow.
For the FREE StartingOverNow E-newsletter, or to contact Mary Lee simply send
an email to: info@startingovernow.com. Share your story.